Thoughts: Career and Motivation

Sometimes I ask for advice that I shouldn't have asked.
Grr.

 The conversation went like:

 "Try to think what are your motivations before you make a decision"

 and that caught me off guard.

 What were my motivations when I started doing this?

 I was young, just off school. I was ambitious but pragmatic. I knew, I had to start somewhere.
I could take a shortcut but at that time, there wasn't any opportunity for a shortcut. Or I just didn't know how to.

 When I graduated, It seemed like the next necessary step. Get a job.
So really, why? 

 I wanted to learn. I wanted to contribute. I wanted to make my parents proud. I wanted to be able to start saving for myself.

 Three years later. Have those motivations changed?

 A little bit. I am still learning. I am now contributing, but i want to contribute more. I'm sure my parents are proud. At least, I think they are. I get to save a little. 

 So now, what are the why's? Why do you still do this?

 Do you still get a sense of fulfillment out of this?

 A little. I do. Yes. I know that particular tasks I do, leads to an opportunity for somebody else. Someone gets employed. They get to feed their families. They get to send their kids to school. People get to do their hobbies. 

 (I'm still the idealist, I guess) 

 Why are you having second thoughts about this now?

 I feel I maybe stagnating a little. We'll give this a time frame. If at this set moment in time, your motivations have not changed, don't stay. 

 Okay?

 Okay. Fair enough.

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