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"You have to go through that pain at some point because if you live constantly confined with your unwillingness to go through pain, you do not develop into who you are supposed to be." This was from a podcast episode of the Art of Charm with Russell Brand. 

There's always something you learn from other people.  Pat Riley I know of being a steady figure of the Miami Heat.   This time he talked about keeping Ego in check, and contributing to the team. The Disease of Me Chronic feelings of under appreciation (Focus on oneself) Paranoia over being cheated out of one’s rightful share Leadership vacuum resulting from formation of cliques and rivalries. Feelings of frustration even when the team performs successfully Personal effort mustered solely to outshine one’s teammate Resentment of the competence of another  “The most difficult thing for players to do when they become part of a team is to sacrifice. It is much easier, and much more natural, to be selfish.” – Pat Riley

"Give yourself permission to write badly" This was part of You Made it Weird Podcast episode with Michael Ian Black

"Warren Buffet has always said the measure is whether the people close to you are happy..." -Bill Gates at a Reddit AMA

"You know what, that cliche about the journey being more important than the destination? There's something in that.  The closer I got to my finish line, that rubbly, rocky coast of Ross Island, the more I started to realize that the biggest lesson that this very long, very hard walk might be teaching me is that  happiness is not a finish line, that for us humans, the perfection that so many of us seem to dream of might not ever be truly attainable, and that  if we can't feel content here, today, now, on our journeys amidst the mess and the striving that we all inhabit, the open loops, the half-finished to-do lists, the could-do-better-next-times, then we might never feel it." -Ben Saunders Link to Ted Talk:  https://www.ted.com/talks/ben_saunders_to_the_south_pole_and_back_the_hardest_105_days_of_my_life

Pope Francis recently appeared at a TED Talk with a message of inclusion, and kindness among others. On Connectedness and Inclusion "We all need each other." "We don’t think about it often, but everything is connected, and we need to restore our connections to a healthy state. Even the harsh judgment I hold in my heart against my brother or my sister, the open wound that was never cured, the offense that was never forgiven, the rancor that is only going to hurt me, are all instances of a fight that I carry within me, a flare deep in my heart that needs to be extinguished before it goes up in flames, leaving only ashes behind." On Solidarity "How wonderful would it be, while we discover faraway planets, to rediscover the needs of the brothers and sisters orbiting around us. How wonderful would it be if solidarity, this beautiful and, at times, inconvenient word, were not simply reduced to social work, and became, instead, the default attitu...

A Managerial bubble is when as a leader, what you hear is already filtered, and it may not be representative of actual concerns of the people. It is when you are inaccessible. It is when you are never wrong. From the HBR Ideacast episode with Hal Gregersen: How much time are you out of the office? Where are you out of the office? Who are you with? (To gauge how many physical interactions you have other than CEO’s) How many barriers do people have to cross for people to be able to talk to you? (Your accessibility to the people) When was the last time you were dead wrong about something? (If it’s been awhile, you’re in a bubble) How often do people ask you uncomfortable questions at work? (If seldom, you’re definitely in a bubble) How often do you wait silently for 3-4 seconds after you ask a question? (If you’re not asking questions that people wait 3-4 seconds to answer, they’re leading questions)

"I’ve often said that I wished people could realize all their dreams of wealth and fame so they could see that it’s not where you’ll find your sense of completion.   ...   I can tell you from experience, the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is."   From a 2014 commencement speech addressed by Jim Carrey

Love is a collaborative work of art Love is an aesthetic experience Love is unpredictable Love is creative It requires communication and discipline It's frustrating and emotionally demanding It involves both joy and pain Each experience of love is different -Mandy Len Catron A bit from Mandy Len Catron's ted talk. I like this version of a metaphor. It implies that love is something you create. It doesn't just happen to you. Contrary to the romantic view of "falling" in love. It will not draw, paint, or sing itself. It's an active decision. One that requires a specific kind of awareness of your own intentions.

I'm a late adopter of Calvin and Hobbes; and of Bill Watterson's works. I guess mostly because it's not really circulated in the Philippines. I grow more and more a fan of this bratty kid and his friend tiger.  Someone posted on reddit about what is the best Calvin and Hobbes quote. Sure enough, people responded with clever, insightful bits. The following are the one's I particularly picked out. Hobbes: If good things lasted forever, how would we appreciate how precious they are?   ... Calvin: If people sat outside and looked at the stars each night, i'll bet they'd live a lot differently. Hobbes: How so? Calvin: Well, when you look into infinity, you realize there are more important things than what people do all day. ... Dad: The world isn't fair, Calvin. Calvin: I know, but why isn't it ever unfair in my favor? ...     It's funny how day by day, nothing changes. But when you look back everything is dif...

"That is the defining moment of if you want to do this seriously or continue to do it, is the moment you get hurt. Do you love it so much that you're going to push through this and learn from your mistake? or is that the sign that you have to stop because you don't like getting hurt? From the very beginning one of my worst injuries was I got a concussion. I knocked my teeth out and I knew when I woke up literally in the pro shop of the skate park that I wanted to get back out there and do it. And it wasn't going to stop me even though I had this extremely tragic injury for the most part." -Tony Hawk This was part of an Art of Charm podcast episode with Tony Hawk.

J.J. Abrams: "I remember my whole life, since I was 8 or 9 wanting to be a film maker. And it was just this thing that I just knew if I was lucky enough to get the shot would be how i'd want to live my life. Whether I could or not, I didn't know, but it was the thing I wanted to do forever. And there's that thing that happened for me, and i'm sure we all have our versions of this, that you kind of think that somehow the finish line; that's the place you want to get to. And when you get there, you will have become that person, that thing. You will reach a certain level of insider evolution or whatever; that you will feel like i have become that person. And I remember when I was in my last year of college, and I ran into a friend. And we came up with an idea. And we ended up writing it and selling the pitch to Disney, [...] And i remember signing these documents and getting paid. And suddenly I was a professional screenwriter, and I remember the feeling of no...

"I think there's a real good lie that goes around that many pseudo-intellectuals believe that misery has somehow got more intellectual value than joy. And that's a real problem because there's a lot of [...] people [that] think because they're miserable they're smarter than they are. [...] Also in the portrayal of tragedy and comedy, I have tried to do both in my life and I have watched many other people do it. It seems to me far easier to portray misery whether as an actor, or as a writer than it is to portray joy. Joy is difficult because there's much more resistant to it." [...] "I do believe the key, the meaning of life is live each moment as it arrives." This was part of a Nerdist podcast episode with Craig Ferguson

"There are no secrets. There are no secret recipes. There are no secret techniques. Everything you learn in the kitchen are either you are told, open-sourced by your immediate superior and that's been shared with everybody in the kitchen; Or you have learned it over time painfully.  The ability to tell when a steak is cooked by listening to it in the pan or on the grill, Or determining that a piece of fish is probably ready to come out of the pan just from the sound of it. These are things you learn through repetition. And that is the great secret.  This is how professionals learn. This is how home cooks should learn. People shouldn't be intimidated by recipes. They should understand that professionals learn through getting it wrong, getting it wrong, getting it wrong, getting it wrong, starting to get it right, eventually gets it right until it becomes second nature. Repetition repetition repetition. " This was part of a StarTalk interview with Anthony Bourdain...

"I've played digitally before for years just for fun, (but) p laying vinyl's different, because things can go wrong. The turntables can breakdown. There can be feedback. It's not perfect. And so it requires a certain level of being super attentive a hundred percent of the time. You can't just press a button and everything works perfectly.  And I love that. I love that things can go wrong. You're on your toes constantly. You're constantly working.  You're looking through your record bag of what you're going to play next. That record's now skipping. I've got to transition to another record quickly. There's something ephemeral about it that can change in a moment's notice. And every night's different as a result of that." This was part of a Nerdist podcast episode with Elijah Wood and Samuel Barnett.

Stephen: " Grief cannot be fixed. It can only be experienced.  Unless you allow yourself to experience it, it will stay. " Patton: "Yep, It can't be remedied, it must be endured. And it's the endurance that weirdly enough becomes the remedy." Stephen: "It's the demon that must be named and then it can go." This was from a Late Show with Stephen Colbert episode. The guest was Patton Oswalt.

"As an educator, it's not about me. It's never about me.  It's about the knowledge and wisdom of the natural world, and how your knowledge and wisdom of that can empower you to make decisions you take ownership of.  So I'm duty-bound as a scientist and an educator to share this information with you. What you do after that in a free society, that's your business. I don't lobby congress. I don't lead marches. I don't give speeches at alleys. Cause that implies you want people to do what you do and to say what you say. I never care about that. All I want people to do is be enlightened.  [...] For me the goal is a smarter country. For me the goal is people who can think for themselves.  [...] (That people can) think for themselves not by telling them what to think but by training them how to think." This was part of a Nerdist podcast episode with Neil deGrasse Tyson.

"What, in this moment, is lacking? What's missing in the moment? When you really think about it.  Nothing's missing. " This was part of a You Made it Weird podcast episode.

"I think, you know, just going in there and being willing to kinda do anything cause I remember going up to Adam Mckay and saying hey,  Cause there were some cast members who were like "Uhm I'm just delivering a pizza in this sketch. Really? That's it? I don't wanna do it." I told Adam like "You know I love those little two line parts." Cause I can come in and just be odd and leave the sketch and you can sometimes get a laugh.  And that kind of attitude is what you have to have. Like obviously you want to be in as much as you can. But also doing the little parts, there's no small parts really. " This was part of Nerdist podcast episode with Will Ferrell

"I just see myself as a human being, Just trying to play my part.  I don't think of myself as much as a leader, I'm happy to share what I know." This was part of an HBR podcast interview with Yo-Yo Ma