Love: a different metaphor

Love is a collaborative work of art
Love is an aesthetic experience
Love is unpredictable
Love is creative
It requires communication and discipline
It's frustrating and emotionally demanding
It involves both joy and pain
Each experience of love is different

 -Mandy Len Catron

 A bit from Mandy Len Catron's ted talk.

I like this version of a metaphor. It implies that love is something you create. It doesn't just happen to you. Contrary to the romantic view of "falling" in love. It will not draw, paint, or sing itself.

 It's an active decision. One that requires a specific kind of awareness of your own intentions.

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