Modern Ideas

These are just some of my beliefs that I've learned and have stuck with. And like any intangible thing, anything is open for agreement and disagreement. Some beliefs I had growing up, didn't stand the test of time, like some here may not be relevant in next years to come. I think it's important to know that we as a whole are guided by our ideals. But if it hurts other people, it needs to be reconsidered.


1.       The soul mate, it doesn't exist.

At least the concept of it, Shouldn't. What is a soul mate really? The idea is that there is one special person for you in the world. Your soul’s irrevocable bond with another soul. Only one. While there is nothing wrong with that and I believe in monogamy. The soul mate is a mystical thinking trap. It creates this search for a perfect person.

2.       Go to your failure.

We've been taught and coddled in every way how and what success should be. Sometimes, that becomes counter-intuitive. Because then, we freeze. At the face of adversity, we get scared. We fail. And worse, we feel bad about failing. Then we become scared of trying. Let’s evolve. Don’t be afraid to fail big. You learn so much more from failure. You get to see what went wrong and what could be improved. As long as you keep trying, you don’t lose.

3.       Happily ever after is a myth

It’s the usual childhood ending to a fairy tale. Growing up, we slowly realize that isn't so. Why do they keep doing that anyway? You’ll be happier to think some days you’re going to have bad days. Because that’s true. You are going to experience loss, separation and other terrible things. And during those days, you are not particularly happy. And when you think that life should be happy all the time, you’re just going to be disappointed. On a purely physiological stand point, as long as you’re relatively happy with occasional sadness, you’re fine.

4.       Whether you believe in God or not, you still have to be good to other people

One way to not do that is to not respect other people’s beliefs. Name calling is one. Thinking you’re better than other people because of your belief is another.

5.       You are not the center of the universe

You need to realize this now. The universe doesn't owe you anything. It doesn't function to serve your needs.

6.       Be a fool, believe good things will happen

Everything in this life ends. And when those days come, it’s going to be miserable. Does that mean you stop living because you’re going to die anyway? No. Should you dread that it’s going to be miserable along the line?

7.  You are not your things, or your job or your possessions.

You really are doing yourself a disservice if you think you are defined by your clothes, your bag, your job, your car, your money. 

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