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Maraming salamat.  Kailangan mo yan marinig madalas. Kahit tayo lang ang may alam, wala akong paki. Dahil yun naman talaga ang pinakamahalaga. Alam mo at alam ko. -Bullet Dumas, sending love to Indie Music and fans. Credits: http://www.philstar.com/supreme/2016/02/13/1552373/bullet-dumas-my-valentine Stefan Punongbayan (The Philippine Star)

Over the last decade, we have seen the research on the effects of stress. And much of it is not good. Thus our natural reaction to it is that it is automatically bad for us. Which on a constant basis, it is. And when we assume it's bad for us. In a way, we sabotage ourselves the chance for us to challenge it. Here's Kelly McGonigal on her Ted talk: How to make stress your friend "The next time your heart is pounding from stress , you're going to remember this talk and you're going to think to yourself, this is my body helping me rise to this challenge. And when you view stress in that way, your body believes you, and your stress response becomes healthier." ... "People who spent time caring for others showed absolutely no stress-related increase in dying. Zero. Caring created resilience. And so we see once again that the harmful effects of stress on your health are not inevitable. How you think and how you act can transform your experience ...

Just watched this Ted talk by Judson Brewer, titled: "A simple way to break a bad habit." I've seen a couple materials about changing habits over the years. A recurring theme about them is the structure of what creates a habit. Trigger - Behavior - Reward This is millions of years of evolution hardwired in our brains. It may have saved us from an angry lion or remembering where to find that ample source of water.  But on our modern lives now that same biological process is active on mundane tasks. The difference on what Brewer suggests now is that, instead of working against the structure, use it to our advantage. The same pattern, except the reward is the wisdom.  To be aware of the actual habit. To be curious. Another facet of mindfulness. "Seeing really clearly what we get when we get caught up in our behaviors, becoming disenchanted on a visceral level and from this disenchanted stance, naturally letting go. This isn't to say that, poof, magically...